The Divine Feminine of Friendship

Howdy y'all! It's been a minute.

During my third rewatch of Girls on HBO, I got to thinking; which foursome is more relatable for the modern woman? Marnie, Hannah, Shoshanna, and Jessa or Carrie, Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte? I mean, I don't like in New York and I wasn't even old enough to drive a car in 2012, let alone watch Girls or Sex & The City.

I think Girls is a more accurate representation of my experience as a young adult woman in a big city. While again, I don't live in New York, I live in Cincinnati, which is a fairly big city in Ohio if you weren't aware. I have reached the age where I can relate to any of the ladies on Sex & The City, but I find myself wanting to relate as I age.

Girls really tackles a more modern take and the characters are far more relatable. I see myself as Shoshanna, a young marketer discovering who she is.

Anyway, what does this have to do with anything? Well, I find myself in the middle of a supportive feminine threesome, not unlike the foursomes on both aforementioned tv shows. And there we have the divine feminine of friendship.

When one imagines themselves in their adulthood, what do they see? I saw a group of close friends I could rely on no matter what, and I am blessed enough to have received these gifts from the universe. In college, I made fast friends with my classmates, but like many relationships based off of proximity, they didn't last into my late 20s. The people who have stuck around, however, are extremely precious to me. That's not to say, however, that we haven't had our hard times.

As I near thirty, I have come to appreciate the people around me a lot more. I have been blessed enough to find two of the best friends I have ever had through my pole dancing adventures.

While my truest and oldest best friend landed in a house with a new, and adorable(!) baby girl, I chose another path in life. A path that has led me to find joy in the little things and value the sacred pact of friendship.

I believe different friends serve different purposes. You have friends you see once every few months and it's like nothing has changed and you catch up like it's nothing. You have friends you talk to every day and you're constantly up in each others' business. There is nothing more important in life than having friends to experience it with, no matter your closeness or how often you speak to one other.

I think that's a good lesson to be learned from both shows. At the end of the day, you have these people to rely on and you've created these relationships for a reason.